Lucky Guy By Steve Beckow

[Manuel Tavares]

Lucky Guy
By Steve Beckow
https://rayviolet.blogspot.com/2022/06/lucky-guy.html

I’ve been watching myself around the passing of my brother, Paul, and I’ve noticed the significance of a conceptual break in one’s response to a death in the family.

I haven’t had a conceptual break with Paul: I haven’t had the thought that Paul has ceased to exist and therefore our contact has been broken.

He’s not “dead,” for me: I haven’t crossed that boundary. If anything he exists more fully than he did while embodied.

If I said “Paul is dead” and accepted that, I’d probably be in an entirely-different emotional space with things than I am.

I’d be feeling depressed, abandoned, lonely, etc.

I have to add that I didn’t see Paul every day. He was about six hours away by bus and ferry. My daily well-being and happiness did not turn on his company.

What I’m saying here does not apply to people who miss his daily presence, his hugs, his advice, and so on. That’s a different matter.

I simply don’t see Paul as gone and I’m noticing that that sets up an entirely-different experience for me than if I did....+
https://rayviolet.blogspot.com/2022/06/lucky-guy.html