Why are goodbyes so hard...?

[Simmy]

Hey guys,

I'll be heading back home in a couple of days and I'm already with that sinking feeling in my stomach, thinking of the time to say goodbye to my family here...

It's always so hard for me...I can't help feeling like s***...

Every time is the same thing... everyone cries so much at the airport that I feel my heart physically hurts!

Has anyone got any "tips" on how to transform these goodbye moments in a more positive experience (if it's even possible!)? Not just for me, but for everyone else (I always feel that my family gets to an even worse state than me).

I'm usually quite good in seeing the positive in the negative, but this is one situation that I'm helpless...

(Sorry for the "what does this have to do with our SoE discussions" blog)

[Simmy]

Thanks a lot guys!!! :)

[Simmy]

Thank you Daisy and PT!

I have the same philosophy about school, PT! Unfortunately my husband doesn't, hehehe! I decided to call him to see what he thought about the options (after all we are a partnership ;) ) and he was (a bit) mad at me saying that he wouldn't think twice before choosing the earlier date (I think is the way he found to say that he is missing us, lol). So I decided to change to the 7th. We still have the extra 3 days with the family plus 7 is also a sacred number, hehe!!!

p.s..: The didn't know why the flight was cancelled when I called. she said that it was probably because of the weather...who knows!! I always believe things happen for a reason and I believe it was for a good one! ;)

[ૐ Daisy ૐ]

hey simmy.. i love your beautiful spirit.. and i want you to know...that in my opinion ( i have a 9 year old as well as a 4 year old ..but spasifically the 9 year old cuz he's in school) that it will be more benifical i think for him and you and your family for those extra 3 days.. let the 'see ya later' get off on a good note , im not sure that those extra 3 days will be so crutial anyways.. and if your feeling bad ..quiz him on spelling or something hehehe

 

much love simmy.. i feel your pain..

[Simmy]

Thanks PT! I will make sure I wear a nice one...LOL!!!

Guess what! I was meant to be leaving today, back to the UK, but my flight was cancelled!!!

I was able to re-book my flight online yesterday night and the only available date given was the 11th Jan. I've never had a flight cancelled before, so I had mixed feelings (missing hubby and worried with my son missing so many school days AND feeling super happy to spend an extra week with my family).

I should had left at that but this morning I decided to call British Airways to find out why the flight was cancelled and I asked if they had available seats at an earlier date (hoping they would say what the computer said). The lady told me they had 2 seats available on the 7th Jan. Now I'm in a dilema. If I keep the date the computer gave me (11th Jan) I'll have an exta week with my family here (who, btw, are absolutely thrilled with the flight been cancelled!) but my son will miss 3 more school days. If I choose to take the earlier offer (7th Jan) I will burst everyone's bubble (including my one and my son's, being so happy with the extras days here) and I will have to pay another fee for changing (again) my domestic flight. I know what I want to do but...am I being irresponsible with the school issue?

[Simmy]

Everyone in my family was raised catholic but today the beliefs vary a lot and no one follows a particular religion. Beside my brother, who is atheist, everybody else believes in a Creator. The views on who or what the Creator is also very diverse.

[Simmy]

Yes Simone, ALOHA is such a beautiful word! 

I much prefer 'see ya later' PA, the problem is to make them believe you are so certain of it. But, like you said, none of us are guaranteed to live tomorrow and we should really just focus on the good times together.

To be really honest, I can deal with this. I have been doing it for 11 years. The real problem are my parents, granny, etc. They don't know how to deal with it and they do behave like is 'the end of the world'. I really feel for them and nothing positive I say seems to take that pain away...

Thanks guys!