I know that there are a lot of you out there that are experienced and wonderful parents. I am putting this discussion here today because I am struggling as a mother with a young teen daughter. Don't get me wrong, she is a very responsible 13 year old and a wonderful daughter. The problem is that money is very tight right now and she just doesn't seem to get that. I have explained it over and over and every time she seems to understand. But now her birthday is coming up in January and once again the fantasy of having a big expensive Birthday Party is being pushed at me. All of her friends are from families that have financial abundance....and we cannot keep up obviously. Big sigh. It makes me feel like a loser. We are the only family that doesn't go on holidays, no car, no this no that. Mind you she had a phone and lost it....a note book computer and damaged the adaptor....so I do feel like I have provided in vain.
My history is different from my children's, I had a prosperous childhood but lived in poverty as a teen. I didn't have friends because my father, well, strongly discouraged it. But as a teen, I never asked for anything knowing my dad didn't have money. I didn't even have a 16 party and I don't recall any gifts. There fore when I hear she is just a teen I don't understand that logic.
So any works of parental wisdom would be greatly appreciated. I thank you in advance.
Much Love paTricia